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By Umesh R Yadav - BANGALORE
23rd October 2012 09:30 AM
It might be one among the many divorce cases in the city. But what made it unusual were the grounds on which the divorce was granted — wife-swapping.
Granting divorce to Bhavya (29) (name changed) recently, a family court judge observed: “Practices like wife-swapping spoil Indian society, and people should not forget their culture and tradition by being attracted towards foreign lifestyles.”
In her petition seeking divorce, Bhavya of Chikmagalur said she was married to Dhanush (name changed), a software engineer residing at Jayanagar, three years ago. Both of them were attracted towards lavish western lifestyles. They used to go to late night parties and discos, and Dhanush used to introduce her to his friends, she said.
Bhavya further said sometimes they used to drink together, and Dhanush encouraged his friends to get too close to her. Dhanush also used to get intimate with wives of his friends. Recently, Dhanush and his friends arranged a party at a resort near Nelamangala, where they had brought their wives. At that party, they all drank and Bhavya was completely under the influence of alcohol. They spent the night there.
When Bhavya turned sober the next morning, she found one of Dhanush’s friends sleeping on her bed.
When she informed her husband of that, Dhanush seemed to be knowing about the “arranged incident”, and asked her not to discuss it with any one, Bhavya said.
After that incident, Bhavya refused to go to parties with him. But soon, Dhanush started compelling her to accompany him to parties. When she protested and informed her in-laws about it, he started torturing her.
Unable to bear it any more, she went to her parents’ house and stayed there for one-and-a-half years, but Dhanush continued to torture her, she said in her complaint.
Finally, she filed a petition seeking divorce from him.
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Comments(20)
Of late Bangalore is in news for all bad reasons. Modern cosmopolitan city of India? Pride for this IT hub!!
Posted by Soma Visal at 10/23/2012 16:43 Reply to this Report abuse
Both ter husband and the wife in this case are responsible for the ugly or awkward mess. Having mingled with the males freely under the influence of liquor several times, what is the use now in accusing the males or her husband? This is a typical example of how the western culture is spoiling our tradition, culture and family life. We have to take only the good from the western civilisation and not at all the bad ones.
Posted by B.Kousalya at 10/25/2012 21:47 Reply to this Report abuse
;The woman in this case is not justified in accusing or making complaints against her male companions, as she had already given a long rope to them by freely mixing or mingling with them with booze, under the guise of western civilisation..,She is fit to be deported to any of the western countries of her choice so that she may be free there to adopt that culture and civilisation. It is her parents who are to be blamed for the filthy and nasty manner in which they brought up their daughter. .
Posted by B.Vatz at 10/25/2012 22:01 Reply to this Report abuse
Mr. B.Vatz sorry to say this but you are really sick and need to change your attitude towards women. You claim for the same rights as you have but at the end of the day you want to be ruling over your wife. Its not western culture of wife swapping because the concept came from India from the book "Kamasutra". But i really feel sad for the girl because she was tortured and did it unknowingly. I would like to agree to Sam on this that you have a choice to say 'no'. Swap your wife only if she is ready for it and don't force her to do so.
Posted by Ari at 01/18/2013 11:03 Reply to this Report abuse
It is a misconception that wife swapping is practiced in western culture. It could a ground for divorce in western societies. the judge does not know and attributes this activity to western influence. There are similar instances in the West also, but very few and far between.
Posted by wife swapping at 10/26/2012 19:58 Reply to this Report abuse
A woman or a man can say "no" to something they were doing before. And if the other does not accept it and resorts to abuse, it is one's right to cease a relationship. Remember "freedom is a birth right". And that means freedom to do what one pleases as long as it is the right thing to do. I am ashamed of your opinions, which simply state that if you have done something wrong you cannot complain anymore and you have to continue doing so. Sorry guys that is wrong! A person has a right to correct wrongs. At the extreme, a prostitue can refuse sex and also cry "rape" when sex is forced on her. Otherwise there would be no slaves, once the slave has accepted food and shelter in return for slavery. And British rule of India would be justified too.
Posted by Sam at 10/28/2012 13:06 Reply to this Report abuse